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5 Couples Communication Tips to Survive Lockdown

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That's right. Talk to your man, girl!

Maybe he’s always a perfect gentleman. Or maybe he was already getting on your nerves before you were forced to give up all the places you loved to go. As the days of lockdown seem to drag on, seeing a significant other more frequently, due to a new work-from-home routine or a job loss, can be a pain in the you-know-what. Here are 5 ways you can improve your communication to come out of lockdown stronger than ever.

Disagree privately

Step away from the kids! If the kids are around, take discussions about disagreements in a room far from the little ones or save the conversation until after they are asleep. The same applies to your family and friends. No one truly enjoys seeing the people they love having an argument.

Put that phone away!

This also applies to tv, music, and any other distraction. You and your partner should give each other full attention and respect. Being distracted shows your partner that you really don’t care, either about him or the issue at hand. Resist the urge to be petty.

Take turns speaking

There’s nothing worse than trying to get your point across to someone who is too busy talking to you, at the very same time. Decide who will go first then give the other person the opportunity to speak. You’re a grown-up, so act like it!

Resolve the issue or be okay that you disagree

Eventually, you have to stop fighting. You will either need to come to an agreement or be okay with the fact that you disagree. Take the opportunity to see if you two can agree on how the issue should be approached if it arises again in the future.

Talk often

But don’t make it feel like an interrogation. Couples who rarely engage in meaningful conversations are likely to run into issues more frequently. Getting to know your partner is a never-ending process. Whether you’ve been together 5 weeks or 5 years, your partner is evolving. Understanding who your partner is and what’s important to him (and vice versa, of course), is the best way to know if the relationship is better as friends or worth fighting for.

Key Takeaways

Remember, the better you communicate, the quicker you can resolve issues and get back to loving on each other. When we grow as individuals, our efforts to give our partner grace become more important. Meaningful conversations paired with effective communication are essential for minimizing arguments. What are some other tips you’ve found to be effective when communicating with your man during lockdown?

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